First of all, your child is as clear as possible from one or more of the specialists you can trust or trust about the disability, the grade and characteristics of the disability. It is extremely critical that you are competent with the person or other source of information. Because the information you receive will help you prepare for the future in a healthy way.
Your disabled child may have a number of additional needs due to special circumstances. For this reason, you may need to spend more time with him. However, your disabled child is not the whole of your life. It’s just a piece. In this context, it is also necessary to spend time with your partner, your other children and yourself.
The motivation that you will acquire in a timely manner will be reflected primarily in your child with disabilities and other family members. Once you have met your child’s needs, you should also take time for yourself and get used to it. It’s a psychological necessity. Another contribution of making time for yourself is that your disabled child learns to live with other people.
The learning of the disabled child to live with other people is also a necessity in terms of the development of the child and the psychological health of the family. When a child with a disability is proposed to stay with the other, especially the mothers carry “worries that the others will not be able to look, fail, the child will not stop, These concerns are certain to some extent.
However, it is wrong that mothers do not allow others to worry with such concerns. Because this makes the disabled child dependent on the mother. It interferes with the ability to live with others. This situation wears off family members both physically and psychologically over time.
Do not be overly protective. Give your child the opportunity to do his or her own work, create opportunities, be instructive and encouraging. If you do not have an emergency, allow the child to do it slowly or even half-timely. In many cases, it is necessary to endure the failed results for a certain period of time.
Your child’s skill will gradually develop. For example, your child will develop your eating habits at home and learn how to tie your shirt’s button for a few minutes to tie your shirt’s button. Being impatient and doing yourself instead of your child causes your child to be under the capacity of his or her skills.
Children with disabilities need more opportunities to learn something than children who are normally growing. It does not mean that you try to teach something every minute of course.
In case of an emergency, you can of course do it yourself to speed up the work if needed. The general attitude you need to explain here is that it is opportunistic, instructive and encouraging that you are not a preventive observer when you do not need it.